The research literature has identified three factors that universally lead to stress: uncertainty, the lack of information, and the loss of control.”

Gabor Maté, “When the Body Says No”

CHILDHOOD MATTERS

(How We Adults Interact With Kids Makes A Big Difference) 

Our childhood has a major impact on our later life as adults. As adults we can also have a large influence on the children in our lives. 

In this book, Sudha Kudva a former biochemist and experienced family counsellor shines a light on the evolutionary brain and illuminates our human need to be valued and accepted. She explains the subliminal and unintended messages that adults may pass on to children in their daily interactions and the resulting ‘not okay’ behaviors in children. 

When we adults understand that a child’s brain needs to feel part of the tribe before all else, we can defuse these unintended messages and consistently support the child to feel valued and accepted. In such an inclusive atmosphere, the child’s ‘not okay’ behaviors gradually dissipate and the child starts taking responsibility for his or her behavior. 

With improved behavior, children feel better about themselves. They grow in internal confidence, esteem, and self-worth. In time, adults can breathe more easily about how their child is going to find their place in this ever-competitive world.